What happens when you try to win me over


If you try to win me over, you’ve already lost me.

Not because I’m stubborn.
Not because I don’t listen.
But because the moment you start to persuade,
my defenses go up.

I stop feeling heard.
And start feeling handled.

You’re not with me.
You’re working on me.

And the harder you try,
the more I drift away.

Everything changes when it stops feeling like a pitch
and starts feeling like a conversation.

When you’re not trying to move me
but trying to understand me.

That’s when I begin to care.
That’s when my defenses go down.

Don’t persuade harder. Resonate stronger.

How about you?
How do you react when you sense someone’s trying to persuade you?

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