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Making space for people

Something that immediately caught my eye during last week’s trip to southern Sweden:

There’s space.
Not just for cars (like here in Germany).
But for people.

Sidewalks are wide enough to walk side by side and pause without blocking anyone.

Bike lanes let one person stop without slowing the rest.

To me, it felt like the cities were planned with the people in mind, as if someone had asked “What do people need here?”

(Here in Germany, the guiding thought often seems to be where’s the space for buildings and cars.)

Now, what if we applied that thinking to leadership communication?

Instead of how to make the people fit in, how can we make space for them? So they not only can, but want to do their best work.

Some thoughts on this:

Do we allow space to pause?
So often, we overload our messages with urgency and instructions. But not every word has to move people forward. Sometimes, we need to stop and pause to understand better, find the connection, or simply regain some energy.

→ In your conversations, can someone take a moment to reflect?

Do we create space for different angles?
Companies love streamlined thinking and fear losing control. (Did I ever mention that I once lost a client because they were afraid their teams would start thinking too freely?) But not everyone thinks alike. And that’s the point. When you create space for different perspectives, working styles, and priorities, you don’t lose control, you gain depth.

→ In your meetings, can people show up with their unique perspective?

Is our message designed for people, not just performance?
It’s still a common pattern: This is a professional environment, just get over it and get stuff done. But what if the most professional environment was the one where people belong fully, as a human, not just a professional?

→ In your messages, can people (including you) speak from the heart?

Curious for your thoughts …

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Give them some space

This is what instantly improves any message …





space.





Most people’s communication is missing space in ways they don’t even notice. For example:

1. Space to think

Instead of letting a point land, they rush to the next one. People need time to process an idea.

2. Space for the listener

They don’t create room for the other person to see themselves in the message. It’s simply a broadcast of their own views.

3. Space between ideas

They give a rapid fire info dump of details, making it hard to separate the important from the irrelevant. When everything’s important, nothing’s important.

4. Space for emotion

They focus on getting the facts right and give no space for emotions. Great messages make sense. But they also feel right.

5. Space for curiosity

They explain everything at once instead of leaving room for intrigue. A well-placed gap or an unfinished thought invites the audience to lean in and want more.

6. Space to breathe

They fear silence as awkward, perhaps out of nervousness, habit, or the uncomfort that comes from it. The irony is that breathing removes all of that, plus it gives the audiences space to breathe too.

7. Space in their writing

Their text is dense, without visual breathing room. No line breaks, no emphasis, no rhythm. The reader’s eye gets lost, and the message loses impact.

8. Space for the unsaid

Not everything needs to be spelled out. The best communication allows people to connect the dots and draw their own conclusions. That’s what makes your message their message.

How do you give your audience space to connect?

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The slow “yes”

If no one pushes back, your idea might be in trouble.
I didn’t realize this for a long time.

When people nod, say “yes,” and don’t push back, it feels like you’ve done your job.

“They get it.”

Except… they don’t.
(Because if they did, you wouldn’t need to keep checking.)

I’ve been in meetings where everyone agreed.
And then nothing happened.
No follow-through.
No real commitment.
Just polite nods collecting dust.

The problem is that agreement is cheap.

It’s an easy way out.
People agree to be polite.
To avoid conflict.
Or simply to move the meeting along.

It often happens when you’ve done all the talking.
You’ve explained. Reasoned. Persuaded. Until people got tired.

Alignment is different.
It happens when you create space.

Space for others to engage.
To question. Reflect. Challenge.
To make the idea their own.

Which is what transforms “your” idea into a shared idea.

It might be the slower “yes”.
But at least it’s one that people actually mean –
and carry forward even when you’re not in the room.

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Space to share

In conversations, do you notice when people light up?

It’s rarely because of what you said. It’s because you created space for them to share, to feel valued, to be themselves.

The divas who seek the spotlight will never get there.
They prefer the spotlight for themselves.
Leaving no room for others to shine.

These moments are reserved for those who know when to step back and give space.

Keep lighting the path!

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